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What Do You Look For in a Partner?

A while back, I wrote about the things I looked for in my "other half" (http://www.olgapoetrytree.blogspot.ca/2013/01/on-origin-of-love.html)- respect, intellectual stimulation, devotion... These things are important, but now I'm starting to think that I'm looking for something much deeper than that. I am on a personal quest to discover myself as a student, a daughter, a writer, a woman, a human being with qualities that contribute to society. And at the same time I wish that my quest will intertwine with someone else's, and that this someone will help me on my quest as much as I will help him. A while back, I gave up. I forgot about my personal quest and I got lost in a forest of self-destruction and defeat. Now that I am getting back on my wobbly legs, like a newborn calf, I am starting to realize that the person I want to share my journey with has to do much more than just fulfill my basic requirements. His high paying career path is a plus, but not a must. His looks? A factor, but not a deal breaker. I will not refer to my future companion as my "other half" or a soul mate any longer. I will refer to him as my partner, with whom I will be equal. What should you look for in your partner? These are my thoughts:

  • He will look into your eyes and in them, you will see the greatest love and desire. He will see the world in your eyes.
  • He will want to do anything for you, just to see you happy.
  • He will accept you just the way you are- your quirks and personality flaws- and he will forgive you when you are not being the nicest.
  • He will want to take you out on trips and dates. He will never stop trying to make you interested in him.
  • He will introduce you to his family and present you in the most respectful light.
  • He will not be selfish. He will always try his best to find time for you.
  • He will treat you with the most incredible respect that you so rightfully deserve. He will respect your wishes and opinions even if they defy his own.
  • He will build you up- he will help you grow as a person and he will never stop believing in your talents.
  • He will be your confidante- he will be someone you can trust with your emotions and secrets. He  will never judge you.
  • He will try his hardest to prove to you that he is the one for you.
  • He will guide you on your journey through life, and you will help him too, creating a partnership that can last a lifetime. 
  • He will be the one.
Is this asking for too much? Not really, because I think this is exactly what I deserve, as I am willing to offer just as much in return. And I'm not willing to give it my all to someone who has very little to offer. Frankly, I think everyone deserves to have someone in their life who fulfills the above requirements. We just have to stop being afraid of loneliness and rejection. We have to be patient. We must be aware of our personal goals and our quest to reaching our goals. Only then can we find the courage in ourselves to wait for the one, and then never let him go.
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